As a family law attorney, I’ve walked alongside countless parents trying to build new lives after separation or divorce. One thing I’ve learned: no two families are the same, but many can benefit from a thoughtful and flexible parenting plan. One schedule I return to often in my practice is the 60/40 custody schedule. It strikes a balance between shared parenting and practical realities like work, school, and life transitions.
I’ve seen this plan bring stability to families who thought cooperation was out of reach. I’ve seen it rebuild trust between co-parents. Even more importantly, I’ve seen it rebuild trust between a parent and their children. And in cases where alcohol use or recovery is part of the story, tools like BACtrack View have made all the difference in helping parents maintain safe and consistent contact.
Here’s what you should know:
60/40 Custody Schedule Template
What is the 60/40 custody schedule?
In a 60/40 parenting plan, one parent has the child about 60% of the time (approximately 219 overnights per year), and the other has 40% (about 146 overnights). While not a perfect 50/50 split, it’s still considered a joint custody arrangement in many jurisdictions and supports meaningful involvement from both parents.
A common example is the “4-3” weekly rotation. For instance:
- Parent A: Sunday evening through Wednesday morning
- Parent B: Wednesday after school through Sunday morning
This schedule reduces transitions during the school week and gives each parent quality time on both weekdays and weekends. Of course, you can customize the handoff times to fit your work schedules, school routines, and extracurricular commitments.
When (and why) it works: Real-life examples
The 60/40 plan is especially helpful in situations where:
- Parents live relatively close to each other – ideally within the same school district
- Children are school-aged or older, benefitting from a predictable routine
- Parents can communicate respectfully and manage logistics collaboratively
- Both parents have some flexibility in their work schedules
One real-life example: I represented a father who worked remotely four days a week and had Fridays off. His co-parent worked a traditional 9-5. We designed a 60/40 plan that gave him Monday through Thursday evenings, while his co-parent had Friday through Sunday night. The result? Both parents stayed actively involved, and their child experienced minimal disruption in school and social life. This arrangement allowed for a balanced approach, ensuring that both parents could participate in their child’s activities and maintain their own work commitments. It also served as a practical example when discussing a 50/50 custody schedule overview, highlighting the flexibility that can be built into parenting plans to cater to the unique dynamics of each family. Ultimately, this structure contributed to a harmonious co-parenting relationship, benefiting not only the parents but also the child.
How to make the 60/40 custody schedule work in addiction recovery
I’ve also worked with families where one parent was in recovery from alcohol abuse. In these cases – and really, any custody cases in which there are safety and trust concerns – co-parenting in a joint custody arrangement can be a delicate process. That’s where BACtrack View becomes an essential tool.
BACtrack View is a remote alcohol monitoring system that allows parents to take scheduled breathalyzer tests from their phones. Results are instantly shared with the other parent, attorneys, or even the court if needed.
Take this situation: I had a case in which a mother in early recovery was eager to regain unsupervised parenting time. The court agreed to a 60/40 split on the condition that she undergo alcohol monitoring during her parenting time. Over several months, this determined mother built a record of consistent sobriety. This helped ease her co-parent’s fears and ultimately allowed for a more stable and trusting parenting relationship.
These types of systems provide real-time accountability, documentation of sobriety, and contingency protocols if a parent fails a test or doesn’t take a test on time.
Reminder: You’re not alone
To the parent who’s working hard in recovery, or struggling to get back on their feet after a separation–let me say this: You are not alone. I’ve sat across the table from so many people who thought they were at the end of the road. But with the right structure, the right support, and the right safeguards in place, I’ve watched those same people rebuild their lives–and their relationships with their children. It can be particularly challenging when navigating the complexities of child custody and alcoholism recovery, but it’s important to remember that growth is possible. Many have found strength in their journey and have successfully created healthier environments for their children. Embrace the support available to you, and take each step forward with hope and determination.
Whether you’re just starting to explore a custody schedule or trying to revise an existing one, the 60/40 plan can offer just enough structure to be stable, and just enough flexibility to work in real life.
Final thoughts on the 60/40 custody schedule
Parenting after separation or divorce isn’t about perfection–it’s about consistency, care, and staying connected. The 60/40 custody schedule can help you do just that.
Whether your life includes recovery, complex work schedules, or logistical hurdles, you can build a plan that reflects your reality. You deserve a plan that protects your future and your child’s well-being.
If you’re navigating these waters, I encourage you to dig deep. With thoughtful planning, transparency, accountability, and experienced legal guidance – you can create a foundation of trust and cooperation that supports your child’s growth. And your own healing journey, too.
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